I just had my car keys in my hand. Now where did I put them? Has anyone seen my glasses? Did I turn off the stove before I left this morning?
Do these questions sound familiar? Do you find yourself asking questions like these throughout the day? If you do, you’re certainly not alone.
All of us forget things at one time or another. But it can become a real issue if it’s a constant problem. This can become a problem for not just for ourselves, but for those who depend on us– our family, friends, employers or employees
I had a memory problem for years
This was a problem I had for years. In order to remember anything, I had to write it down. But then I would forget where I wrote it! My friends and family would actually expect me to forget appointments. At work, I would always get a call as a reminder to be at a meeting because everyone knew I was likely to forget. It was a problem I knew I would have to solve.
Back in the 80s I started to get serious about improving my memory. I took many courses, read many books and succeeded in changing the way I remembered things. I also started working on methods of mental math calculating as mental exercise.
Now 40 years later, I’m so glad I did! Interestingly, the improvement didn’t come from the courses I took, or the books I studied. It came from applying what I was learning from these courses and books every day. Now, at 64 years old, I have a memory that surpasses anything I could have imagined when I was in my 20s.
I seldom ever have to write things down. Now I give presentations without notes. This has been an incredible help in my employment and in just every day life.
It doesn’t mean getting “smarter”
Now I’m not saying this to brag, because truthfully, I’m really not that smart! Fortunately for me, I can do this, not necessarily by becoming “smarter”, but by using the brain the way it is already designed.
Inside our heads, we all have an incredible gift. Our brains were given to us at birth– for free. With this gift, we can create things to help ourselves and others. We can make an income that will support ourselves and our families. Scientists have only scratched the surface of what our incredible brain can do!
Most of us throughout our lifetime, never really learn to utilize it to anywhere near its real potential. Most of us take this gift for granted, never really examining how it works so we can best use it.
This stems from how we were taught.
It’s the way you use your brain that counts
When you are a child you learn very quickly. Almost effortlessly. And there is a reason for that. A child’s brain is designed to remember brand new experiences and retain them. They have no life experience to associate these new experiences with. But their brains have an incredible amount of synaptic connections that far out number that of an adult’s.
This is why a small child can learn 2 or 3 different languages fluently if they live in a household where these languages are spoken.
Our adult brain has a different advantage
A child can almost effortlessly process and permanently store brand new memories. As adults, our brains are just not equipped that way. However, they don’t need to be! Our adult brains are designed to use something that we adults have that children do not. And that is –experience.
Our brains are designed so that as we grow older we connect our new experiences with older experiences– deep within our memory. Let me illustrate.
Imagine, little 5 year old John meeting another little boy named Malcolm. John never met a person by the name Malcolm. After all– John is only 5 years old. But his brain is able to remember Malcolm’s name the next time he sees him. John and Malcolm have the experience of becoming good friends.
45 years later, John meets a business associate at a meeting. The new associate’s name is Malcolm. Now John’s older brain does not have to retain Malcolm’s name the way it did when John was 5 years old. But, at this point in life, John has met many Malcolm’s. So, he uses his brain the way it is designed. He links this new Malcom with a deeply imbedded memory of a previous Malcolm,– perhaps the one he met when he was 5.
Now at 50, John’s memory is working just as efficiently as it did when he was 5 years old. But you’ll notice that he had to use his brain the way it is designed to function at a mature age.
The problem is, most adults try to use their memory the same way they were taught in school when they were small children. In this blog “No Limit Memory”. and in my you tube channel, I’ll be sharing with you what I’ve learned about the brain and how to implement certain techniques to greatly improve your memory abilities and mental acuity.